15 Tips for a Successful Marriage

1. TALK IT OUT
Set aside a time in the day, when you can talk with your spouse without being disturbed. Don’t discuss children, finance or other matters pertaining to marriage or its attendant lifestyle. Focus on yourselves. Discuss your day, use each other as sounding boards and exchange interesting places of information. Basically, use the time to keep in touch with each other.

2. APPRECIATE EACH OTHER
How often do you exchange thoughts about what you like your spouse? It is important to make the other feel loved and wanted.

3. SETTLE ARGUMENTS IMMEDIATELY
Shouting matters don’t really help in the long run, nor do prolonged sulks. It is better to sit across the table and thrash out issues that trouble you, logically, rather than letting days pass in doubts of silence or tense comments thrown at each other.



4. TRUST EACH OTHER
You will encounter a lot of problems as doubts are bound to rise in the course of any Marriage. Learn to give each other the benefit of doubts. Mutual trust and belief in each other will always help you heather the storms.

5. PRIORITIEZ YOUR WANTS
He wants to start a family, you want to save for a dream house. Decide on a priority from which both will benefit. Take into account the other person’s perspective also


6. ACCEPT EACH OTHER COMPLETELY
Love the other person in totality, not in bits and parts. We are all unique individuals with both plus and minus points. Ignore minor irritants and they will not change your entire life. Accept them, and ask your spouse to accept you, as you are.

7. GIVE A LITTLE OF YOURSELF
Life is a battleground, but sometimes a small sacrifice for the one you love, goes a long way. Your friends, the workplace, as well as your interests may fade with time, but your spouse is the constant anchor in your life. Remember, any decision you take will affect your whole life together

8. DON'T BE JUDGMENTAL
You hate when he snores, or leaves the bathroom untidy. He dislikes the fact that you take ages to get dressed. These are personal habits that can be changed with time, but don't dislike the person for his shortcomings. Caught in the travails and ablations of forging a successful career for yourself, it is likely that your marriage is being relegated to the backseat. In the long run however, the abiding chemistry you share with your partner will be the true measure of your success. So, here are 15 techniques to help you strengthen the kind of bond with your husband / wife, that will last a life time
9. NEGOTIATE
Learn to negotiate deals with each other, Give some and get some. He wants to spend this weekend with his family; you wish to visit a romantic place with him. Tell him you will spend the weekend with his family, but reserve the next for the outing. Make the promise and carry it out willingly. This way, it won’t be a manipulation

10. KEEP FAMILY ISSUES OUT
Most couples forget that they are a family now, and hence, immediate relatives do exist. Instead of thinking in terms of his or her family, and finding faults with them, try and accept them as extensions of your own. This will help you ease out the tensions, if any.

11. GIVE EACH OTHER BREATHING SPACE
In the first year of Marriage, you will dislike being separated from each other. However, later it is essential to give each other space to allow the relationship to breathe. Constantly spending time together can be boring, and leave you with the urge to drift away. Have your own individual circle of friends and spend time with them. That way, both of you have other outlets of entertainment too and come back to each other, refreshed and recharged.

12. APPEARANCE COUNT
Do not roams around with a face pack on your face, or in old clothes in front of your spouse. Familiarity breeds contempt, and such familiarity can kill the romance in any Marriage. Dress well for each other and the rewards will be worth the effort.

13. SURPRISE EACH OTHER
The humdrum routines of everyday life can create monotony in any relationship. Plant love notes in each other’s drawers, give cards for no reasons at all. Buy a bunch of flowers as a gift, just to say “I love you”

14. NEVER ARGUE IN PUBLIC
Your private matters should remain between the two of you. Arguing in front of relatives, children or friends creates unnecessary biases, which may aggravate existing problems, or give birth to new ones. It can also send out the wrong impression that you are not a team.

15. LEARN TO FORGIVE
Forgiveness is a liberation, not a curse. Each day offers us new possibilities. Learn to accept it as a fresh new page. The past is over and done with, you can’t change it, but you can forget and forgive for a bright NEW FUTURE.

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